Not really, no. I don't particularly care for forum rep. Just decided to take advantage of a name change because God knows when I'll get the next one on my main.
I know how difficult it can be to talk with people who don't even tolerate that you have different views than them. Anyway, don't be ashamed of what you think :) as I see you unfortunately deleted many posts and I couldn't read one of most reasonable person here xd
Here is one of my favourite site btw: stormfront.org
The bigger issue is how oblivious berdan is to most people's failure to buy into his BS. He's simultaneously claiming not to be a bigot and linking to freaking Stormfront.
I don't think you can call people gay as an insult anymore solely because it just isn't effective anymore. You call a guy gay and he will just say "yeah I get more guys than you do girls." We are getting close to a golden age where we insult and belittle people based, not on the color of their skin or who they bang, on the content of their character.
I'm not sure it's an improvement, in fact it's probably worse, I don't care if people call me gay or whatever, but calling me stupid or something like that can be quite disconcerting...
To be fair, insults like "stupid" and "autistic" or "I bet you're saying this because your dad beat you" are also pretty questioanble- the former two because they're pretty blatantly ableist (criticizing someone for mental deficiencies), the latter because it's making fun of someone for experiencing domestic violence.
I'd rather just be told to "fuck off" or be attacked as a "jerk" or "fool" or something. Those still hurt, but at least they're not attacking people for things like having a mental disorder.
I don't like YOU. I hate YOUR NAME. I hate YOUR FACE. I hate YOUR POSTS. I hate everything of what you constitute including your atoms.
MAY THE THUNDER STRIKE YOU. MAY THE EARTH OPEN UNDER YOUR FEET AND EAT YOU. MAY YOU HAVE NO CHILDREN FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE AND BE UNLUCKY. I ASK ALL THE GODS TO USE THEIR POWERS TO MAKE YOU THE MOST MISERABLE MAN TO HAVE WALKED ON THE GLOBE. I CURSE YOU TO HAUNT THIS PHYSICAL PLANE FOREVER.
Insults are supposed to be offensive. That's the whole idea behind insulting someone. If the insult you use isn't somehow offensive to anyone than it's not an insult.
If you don't want anyone to be offended than just don't insult people. There's no way to sugar coat it.
It's not about being offensive. It's about not using oppressive speech. Insults based on race, class, gender, sex, sexual orientation, or disability aren't cool.
If you can't think of an insult that's not based on those qualities, then you need to stop being an unimaginative human shitstain.
When you're insulting someone you should want to scar them emotionally for a long time. If you don't want to do that then you shouldn't be insulting them. Unless you're just poking fun at them as if they're your friend.
If you don't want your teammate to surrender then don't accept his surrender.
I haven't ready everything on this thread because I think its pathetic that you need to get the community involved on something so trivial. You won, thats great. Let that be enough. Add the guy to your blacklist so that it doesn't happen again. Also it might be a good idea to set Prerequisites on your games.... That way you don't get noobs like this.
Actually the topic of this thread is how to cope with stressful situations and not to get angry and insult someone, in a situation like this when you care to win but your teammate just leaves without saying word.
@Armin Arlert
If you don't like stormfront, then OK, but don't demonize it. It has nothing to do with bigotry.